July 15th, 2014

The Feminine Principle

The feminine principle; an allowing, an acceptance, a flowing, a ‘being in’, not planning to be and pushing to get to. A rolling with and adapting to life, surroundings and circumstance.

I have conversations with women in my circle, women that work, women who are mothers, women who are driven and those who are not. We are wondering about the feminine principle in our own ways and beginning to articulate what it means to be women, to be successful, on whose terms? To be with rather than push for.

To be the women we are. Honoring our own rhythms, cycles, pacing and goals. Not lining those up with and comparing them to any other, or what the majority may be culturally aspiring to, but playing our own flute and speaking our own language; carving our own shape and expression.

I have many clients that are exhausted, both male and female, tired with the constancy of the pace of their lives. The relentless grinding, these are successful and capable people, yet something is not being fed, the foot is always on the accelerator and they are wondering; is this their inner drive or is it coming from the outside, where is the pressure coming from?

They are asking questions of their own lives and values, because the way it is, is not satisfying and not sustainable. I suggest it’s a pull between the outside and inside, what we know to be us on the inside v’s the world and it’s demands from us externally. To have lost an inside-out type of engagement with the world and instead be outside-in influenced and pressured; dictated to, rather than creating from.

The pace of life is fast there is little time to contemplate or ponder these questions, these stirrings, these knowing’s inside, just a move from one task to another to keep afloat is not enough.

Keep questioning, keep talking and keep moving from the inside-out. Slow down and allow time for stillness. Keep returning to what you instinctively know. Keep listening deeply.